Month: November 2018

The Changes in Life are Like the Seasons Around Us

The Changes in Life are Like the Seasons Around Us

Autumn is in full swing here in the northern hemisphere.

The leaves have already gone through their color change, withered, and fallen. Over the past few weeks, it’s been pile after pile of leaves on lawns and in the streets.

It’s a beautiful time of year.

The heat of summer has finally subsided, the days are shorter, nights are chilly, and the morning is filled with a brisk foretelling of winter’s approach as frost covers the landscape.

This transition doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow, methodical, transformation that takes place over the course of several months.

Changes and transformations in our lives are pretty much the same way.

I realize our lives can, and do, change on a dime due to an unforeseen event, disaster, or circumstance that occurs in a moment, and we’re faced with life-altering situations.

But in reality, those times are rare and happen infrequently.

What we normally experience is akin to seasons around us.

And, when we want to change something in our lives, the slow process can be extremely frustrating. Especially if it’s a particular quality of life we’re aiming for…

Starting a business. Stopping a bad habit. Starting a workout routine to get fit. Stop eating unhealthy.

When we attempt to better our lives, the frustration comes when we think we should’ve crossed the threshold of a particular season and entered into a new, fresh way of being.

But like the unpredictable snow that may come in the middle of autumn, so there are setbacks in our season of change.

When this occurs, we feel like a failure, or worthless, or we’ll never be like so and so, or…whatever. We can be so hard on ourselves at times.

The key is this…

Stick with it. Stay the course. Life is a short, yes, but it takes a whole lot of time to live it.

If you’ve committed to a course of action to change, pursue a goal, or try something new, realize that there will be setbacks like the snows in autumn…and all that means is that it’s snowed when it probably shouldn’t have and NOT that you’re a failure.

Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Change, Living Better, Reinvention, Self-Improvement
<em>Currents Deep Down Inside that We Should Follow; or Just Keep Dreaming?</em>

Currents Deep Down Inside that We Should Follow; or Just Keep Dreaming?

Rarely is it the big decisions in life.

Rather, it is the little, seemingly, insignificant decisions throughout our normal day that add up to a life lived.

As a mentor of mine put it, “It’s never just one thing.”

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Of late, I’ve felt something stirring deep down to post an article every day over the next eight weeks until the first of the year.

That’s a lot of work. That’s a lot of exposure. That’s a lot of fear I gotta deal with.

Fear of rejection. Fear of my own inabilities—like; can I do that? can I keep at it? do I have enough to say?

Scratch the last question…I can talk too much. Perhaps, it’s not an issue of not having enough material, it’s a matter of not being able to articulate it good enough.

And that’s the crux, isn’t it?

We ALL wrestle with the question, “Are we good enough?”

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Isn’t Good Enough, can be an excuse for not moving forward.

I have found that when the current inside is moving, although fraught with fear, when I begin to move with it, things happen.

But there’s something between moving under the radar and announcing to all that I’m going to do something with intention.

I can’t sweep it under the carpet if I don’t show up one day. When I announce to the world, Hey, check this out, I’m gonna do X, Y, Z, it brings with that announcement some accountability to my actions.

And…It teaches me that there’s more inside me than I’ve given credit for because now I need to step up instead of daydreaming about doing so.

And…when I announce to those who care and begin to take steps in the direction of that current, then, looking back, I’ve always found myself on the doorstep of opportunity.

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What’s moving inside of you lately?

What are you most afraid of doing that you think, “Hey, that would be interesting and who knows what would happen?”

What a rush it is to step out and say, Hey, here’s what I’m going to do…

What a rush it is to have loved ones, friends, and people you’ve never met cheer you on.

Life is too short to have your dreams live in a dream world.


Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Life Hack, Self-Improvement, Writing