Christian Martin Jr.

The Richness of the Grave of One Day and What Ifs…

The Richness of the Grave of One Day and What Ifs…

Les Brown once said,

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determine to carry out their dream.”

We all believe we have plenty of time…

One day I’ll get to it.

One day I’ll write that book that’s been floating around in my head.

One day I’ll approach this or that company with this idea.

One day I’ll slow down and enjoy life.

One day I’ll do a better job of prioritizing my life so I can spend more time with my Love.

One day I’ll visit there.

One day I’ll get out of debt.

One day I’ll…

Why not today?

Simple, we hedge ourselves in, under, and behind a curtain of excuses.

Mine were as follows:

What will they say?

Will I look stupid?

Will she, he, they love me any more?

What if I fail?

Wait! What if I succeed a little and then it crashes down around my head? Then what?

What if I can’t make the same money?

What if I run out of money?

What if I am on the wrong path, and I miss out somewhere along this journey?

What if I’m wrong?

We don’t think about our mortality until someone close to us passes away.

Then it makes us uncomfortable for a short time until we distract ourselves with life again.

Yet, not one of us is promised to awake tomorrow morning.

And to realize that others have stepped out from behind the veil of the same excuses to live their dreams should bring hope that we are not too stupid, not too old, not too anything.

It’s just that…

…that first step.

That first step to do anything out of our everyday routine, rut, and regular whatever we give ourselves to instead of our dreams, is flat out terrifying.

Instead of rationalizing why we can’t, perhaps it’s time for a mental shift and stop daydreaming and just start doing.

Even if it’s a little step.

Take a step. Move across the threshold. Then, take another.

Make today the day of someday.


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<em>Flexibility is the Key to Strength in Times of Change</em>

Flexibility is the Key to Strength in Times of Change

Rigid comes from the Latin word rigere, which means be stiff.

Our current definition of Rigid is unable to bend or be forced out of shape.

It also means not able to be changed or adapted.

Dr. Susan David, the author of Emotional Agility, told me in an email once,

“Rigidity in the face of complexity is toxic.”

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Life is a complex business.

Even when things are seemingly chugging along just fine, it’s interlaced like a finely spun spider web…tug on one string, it will ripple through the whole.

When things in life begin to change, and they will, one must remain, or at least, learn to become more flexible.

Flexibility is a difficult mindset to learn if everything in life has been viewed in terms of a rigid set of filters.

There are times when we need to be rigid in our standards, faith, and be uncompromising in our values…

But, even in those times when we are unyielding, can we remain teachable to a better way of being?

If our values and our faith are questioned, or perhaps life shakes our “faith tree”, will it break apart and rain down rigid, splintered shards of harsh denial, condemnation, or confusion that pierce us, and those around us?

Or…

Can we stand as a flourishing tree that moves and flexes with the wind, and yet remain solid and grounded at the same time and provide shelter to others?

This is an area that takes patience, openness, and humility to shed unhealthy rigidness.

It takes a willingness to learn and a certain amount of self-awareness to know ourselves and to identify those areas that our rigidness creates toxicity inside and outside of our lives.

Being flexible with life, ourselves, and with others, is a far more relaxed way of being.


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