Christian Martin Jr.

You have 12 Hours to Live…

You have 12 Hours to Live…

If you only have 12 hours to live from the time you read this…

What would you do differently today?

Where would you go?

How would you be toward others?

Who would you spend time with?

I originally wrote this post as sort of a dare to challenge all of us.

A dare to live differently.

A dare to get out of the rut and consider what is important and make the necessary adjustments to actually live life.

You see, there are people right now, this very moment, they do not have a choice in the matter. A doctor has given them terrible news, so there is no dare necessary.

But for the rest of us, we don’t think much about it.

Here in lies the problem.

Some of us have no idea that we don’t even have 12 hours left.

In my past vocation, I held many young people, far younger than I, who took their last breaths in my presence and I watched them pass away.

There is nothing in this life—a person, an organization, a company—that can guarantee you and I that we’ll be alive in the next 12 hours.

I’m not trying to be Mr. Doom & Gloom here.

Death is as much a part of life as anything. We don’t like the thought.

Yet, we might be stuck in a situation in life that is sucking the life right out of us, but we fear many things and use many excuses why we don’t get out of the situation, and it’s always on our lips…

Wish I could…

Someday I’ll…

At some point, we need to examine what it is that holds us back, and with a little mindfulness and courage to look at our lives and say, Enough of the excuses.

My excuses? For years…

  1. I’m not smart enough
  2. I’m not talented enough
  3. I don’t have the right connections
  4. I’m too stupid, dumb, an idiot…blah blah blah
  5. Then…I’m too old to (fill in the blank) 
  6. I don’t have enough money
  7. And the big one…what if I fail?

The above list might sound funny, but those items paralyzed me. So paralyzed that I chose to remain in situations (both work and personal) that were toxic. Every morning it felt like I woke up with poison in my veins.

In response to a similar dare handed to me a few years ago, I wrote down the things that were holding me back, mostly my excuses. I wrote in detail, to myself, the biggest fears I had in facing the things that kept me from making healthier choices for myself. Then, I wrote out a short solution to each fear and excuse I held onto.

It was an exercise that opened my eyes. An exercise that sparked a glimmer of hope that I’m not too old. An exercise that made me think of how I was living my life compared to my deepest values.

Heck, this exercise helped me identify and re-evaluate what my core beliefs, values, and desires.

Why not write down what you want your life to look like?

Write down your fears…and be brutally honest with yourself.

Write down the solutions in overcoming each of those fears and challenges you face.

Write down what your beliefs, core values, and desires are.

Well, you only have 12 hours (maybe). By now, less, because you’re taking your precious time to read this…thank you.

I hope you give it a go with writing those things out.

I hope you discover something new and fresh.

I hope you find the courage and strength to change the areas you desperately want and need to.


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Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Life Hack, Living Better, Reinvention, Self-Improvement
Life is Like Editing…Live, Die, Repeat

Life is Like Editing…Live, Die, Repeat

Living life is so much like editing a book.

Here’s why…

It’s been a slow go today.

Actually…a slow go the entire past month.

Why? Simple…

Editing.

Ugh!

Don’t get me wrong, I love to write. I write every day in my journal—things that may never be published; and, some that will. Who knows for sure?

However, editing is a much different beast than simply doing AIC (Ass in Chair) time and going at a fresh blank screen with the creative juices flowing.

Editing is like taking on the beast you’ve created. An unruly beast at that.

The project at hand? Book 2 in the Catharsis Awakening Series. I just made it into Chapter 5 today; editing that is.

Speaking of beasts…

Ever see the Tom Cruise movie Edge of Tomorrow?

The tagline goes like this: Live, Die, Repeat—and that describes the editing process perfectly.

It’s a kickass movie where Cruise plays a military officer named Cage that’s never seen combat, and the whole world goes to war against an alien invasion.

Cage is forced into a combat role but it gets worse: every time he dies, he starts over and repeats the day he enters combat.

The upside of Cage’s situation is that he remembers the previous day and how he got killed on the battlefield, which he learns from his “mistakes” and avoids repeating the same thing over…um, getting killed.

The cool thing is, once Cage learns how to avoid a bomb blast, gunfire, or just simply being eaten by a mob of aliens, he moves ahead in the story to the next day.

Each time he dies, he learns, and he moves on, eventually to lead his troops to victory and saves the world in the end.

Whew.

Like I said, kickass movie.

Editing is kickass. Um…actually, more like kickin’ my ass because it feels like I die every day I look at the manuscript.

I read the text, then I rewrite, only to find out that I need to rewrite a section far earlier to explain what the heck I just rewrote. It’s like Cage being gobbled up by aliens.

Then, it seems like I’m stuck in the same place in the manuscript, just like I’m starting out on day 1 of the battlefield.

I tell ya…writing is a lonely place!

A lot like life.

Waking up and trudging through the same material just to rewrite it over and over and over, then to rewrite something else to help make sense of the thing you rewrote.

Does that make sense?

Each death we incur brings us a little bit closer to conquering our alien world and hence why the tears when an author finally holds up the first copy of their work at the end.

But this isn’t just about writing. It’s about anything in life you’re fighting.

Like when you conquer some nasty alien you’ve been fighting what seems like for a whole lifetime, no matter how small of a victory.

We make mistakes, we learn, we pivot, we change, we gain ground…no matter how incremental it is.

Don’t give up!

Keep at it.

We need you.

The world needs you.

For heaven’s sake…don’t quit!

Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Living Better, Reinvention, Self-Improvement, Writing