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Discovering Your Passion, Your Purpose, Your…Whatever. Patience! It Takes Time.

Discovering Your Passion, Your Purpose, Your…Whatever. Patience! It Takes Time.

It is never just one thing.

It is not the one-time personality test you will take.

It is not that one self-help workbook you labor through.

It is not going to be the webinar you consume.

It will be a combination of all those items coupled with your experiences, education, work, environment, culture, and the particular place you find yourself in life’s journey.

The list you write out of all the things you loved to do the most when you were 10 years old will provide a clue as to what your purpose maybe but the discovery is much more complex than that.

It will take an openness and self-awareness that is more than the stimulus of inputs we experience on a daily basis—the stimulus that has seemed to have deadened our passions over time.

Be patient with the process.

When one path opens, it leads to another, which leads to healing, which may then lead to opportunity, which may lead to a detour fraught with difficulty, which will lead to changes and adjustment, and then?

Onto another discovery.

A discovery about who we are, the relationships in our lives, and the world around us…and…how we fit in.

Discovery is not about a one time epiphany; it’s a series of revelations; a network of paths traveled that leads us to discovery.

It is never just one thing.


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Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Change, Life Hack, Living Better, Passion, Purpose, Reinvention, Self, Self-Improvement, 0 comments
Take Care of YOU!

Take Care of YOU!

Loving yourself.

This is a foreign concept to those who give of themselves all the time.

It’s not something we wake up in the morning and think, Okay, how am I going to bless ME today?

If you give give and give of yourself all the time and then feel like a heel when someone does a small kindness to you—you feel guilty for such a kindness because you don’t feel “worthy” of such kindness—may I suggest a book called Emotional Agility by Dr. Susan David.

Nope, there’s no affiliate marketing going on with that link provided. I refer it because the book helped me. I took a ton of notes and made a ton of hi-lights. It’s a great book regarding succeeding outwardly by navigating the inward.

Dr. David spends quite a bit of time on self-care and love. What it is, what it looks like, and reveals how negative an impact comparing ourselves to others is.

Self-care and love is an area which seems devoid in the mind of the person who gives all the time.

I like an analogy that Dr. David used in her book…

She likens ourselves to a child that is lost. As an adult, we wouldn’t come upon this child and yell, “What’s your problem?” and then heap tons of guilt for getting lost.

No, most of us would gather this child up. Hold it tight and reassure the child that everything’s going to be okay and then help the child find its way back home.

How much more should we do that with ourselves?

Not yelling demeaning remarks to ourselves and putting ourselves down with every other word out of our mouth. But calmly and lovingly bring compassion to ourselves.

It’s much easier to put ourselves down usually due to upbringing or the constant haranguing by someone close.

What would that feel like if you tap on the brake in life, slow up, and do something kind for yourself—even if that means telling someone No, for no other reason but to take care of YOU.

Guilt? Perhaps a moment of uncomfortableness?

You have to ask Why?

And after that, relax…take care of yourself.

Find time to do something YOU want to do.

Play. Laugh. Take a nap. Whatever it is, take time to take care of YOU.


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