If You Were to do It All Over Again…

What would you do?

How would you do it?

What would you not have done?

What would you have said? Or not said?

Where would you have lived?

Who would you have married? Or not.

Who would you have allied with?

Who would you have not allied with?

So many questions haunt us from our past that it clouds our moment and causes us to fear the future.

In reality, our past is our past. We can do nothing to change it. We are where we are in life because of our past decisions—that’s a given.

You would not (I hope you wouldn’t) yell and scream at a crying child who is lost in your neighborhood. You would take that young child, comfort him, and tell him, “It’s going to be okay. You’re safe now and I’ll help you find your way home.” Then take the action necessary to return the little boy to his home.

Why are you any different?

Instead of beating yourself up over the past and filling your thoughts with the reruns of conversations of what you should’ve said, or the choices made that should’ve been made a different way; take a gentler approach.

Realize that this moment is precious. Tomorrow may or may not come to us.

Speak kinder words to yourself. Stop berating yourself over the past; it’s done. The only thing that can change about the past is how you go about your present.

Being present is harder than it sounds, but much easier once you stop beating yourself up and forgive yourself.

When the thoughts of the past (whether yesterday or yesteryear) grab and try to suffocate today, try this…

Tell yourself, “Yep, I did that. Doesn’t matter now, I’m moving on. And by the way self, I forgive you. Psst…I even love you.”

Those can be hard words to utter if you’ve spent a lifetime being mad at yourself over that decision when you were _____ years old.

But you can do it. I know you can. You can forgive yourself and give to yourself a wonderful gift of being in the present.

Stop right now and look around you. Look at the neat shapes and colors that surround you, right now while reading this article.

Being in the present is like leading that lost little boy home.

Being in the present is living intentional—no longer are you a slave to the past.

Being in the present is freeing and gives you the ability to live a new life; something that the past does NOT want you to do.

There are wonderful opportunities yet to be seized, and a wonderful life to be lived.


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Posted by Christian Martin Jr.