<em>Is it a Matter of Biting Off More Than We Can Chew; or A Simple Case of Not Being Focused?</em>

Is it a Matter of Biting Off More Than We Can Chew; or A Simple Case of Not Being Focused?

It’s been 21 days that I have posted an article every day.

I am grateful for the self-imposed challenge, but I find that other things that are important to me have fallen by the wayside.

And herein is my dilemma.

This struggle is nothing new for me: I easily overcommit and run after the shiny things rolling around in the corner.

I want to write, but I want to do X, Y, & Z too.

But…I can’t accomplish everything and still maintain a healthy life balance.

I need to sleep sometime, and I find that is usually the first thing to go when I’ve overextended myself.

Sleep is a precious commodity to staying healthy and living a full and long life.

There’s a plethora of studies that confirm this and an entire division of science dedicated to sleep. It’s not a new concept that if you sacrifice sleep on a regular basis, you will sacrifice your physical and mental health, and shorten your lifespan.

Yet, it is never just one thing.

Sleep tanked, yes…but other areas suffered and were put on hold too. I found myself becoming more and more stressed by not having enough time in the day to complete other tasks: classes I’m taking, web design, working a part-time gig, reading, finishing a novel, and researching for the next article.

Because let’s face it, when you contribute to a site like Medium.com, you need to have well-written and well-researched material.

If you don’t have the time to read and research, your articles are not going to be the best. They’ll be littered with disjointed opinions and ideas that don’t add value to anyone; rather those articles just become another outlet for personal writing like you would find in a journal.

Of course, for some of us that consume such material—myself included—it’s one thing to read someone like James Altucher’s material (he bleeds all over the page about his life, and I love it), versus someone like Zat Rana who writes incredibly well researched and thought-provoking articles on a consistent basis (which I also love).

Well, there’s certainly a contrast between both, but also a common thread…both are well read, and both do a ton of research.

I find that when I’m not focused and am pulled by too many projects and thoughts and nebulous ideas at the same time, I’m frustrated, anxious, and do not produce anything that resembles my best.

This is why multitasking is such a high anxiety producer; you do just enough to check off the next item in the list of whatever that needed your attention right now, and then move onto the next 9-1-1 emergency vying for your mental and physical attention, but is it your best work?

So, for now, I’ll go back to publishing an article on a regular basis, whether it’s weekly, or bi-monthly, I haven’t decided yet.

What I do know is that I want my articles to add value and create a space in someone’s life to give pause and consider what is important and hopefully stir that consideration into a positive next step.

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Takeaway

Being scattered and overcommitted in our lives creates a tension and anxiety that just doesn’t need to be.

That anxiety can be overwhelming, and our productivity suffers, not to mention relationships, goals and dreams, and our sanity.

The most satisfying and rewarding times in my life have been when I have prioritized what is truly important and then focused my attention on those things.

During those time, even when I’ve failed, being focused and not allowing myself to be pulled in every direction, those failures haven’t registered as a failure, but something to draw my inner strength upon and to figure a way around, under, or through whatever obstacle that got in the way.

And(!) when I’m focused and have my commitments aligned in a unified direction, my life is more at peace.

~ Love


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Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Intentional Living, Life Hack, Productivity, Purpose, Self, Self-Improvement, stress, Writing
Orientating Ourselves in the Morning to Help Set the Course of the Day

Orientating Ourselves in the Morning to Help Set the Course of the Day

The first few words that you utter in the morning can make or break your whole day.

The fog which settled in for the night can be quite the force to struggle against the moment our eyes pop open; it can be so disorientating, especially if you had a rude awakening…

The alarm went off seemingly way too early (like it usually does), pets or kids are vying for attention before said alarm; an uneasy night sleep, dream after dream after dream that seems to keep us up at night; or an evening filled with, well, a full bladder that needs to be relieved every 30 minutes.

Of course, there are nights that all goes well, and sleep came soundly, and all is refreshed by the time the alarm sounds.

Either way, we all have to come back to life and open the eyes after our slumber, and the mental process begins to churn.

Instead of the negative blast spoken before the bathroom is reached in the morning, try a few different words that are a bit more upbeat such as…

What a beautiful day

or…

I love myself

or…

This day is going to be epic

or…

I’m grateful I’m alive

or…

What a glorious morning

Changing your default setting in the morning isn’t easy and may require a sticky note on the bathroom mirror as a reminder to speak a good word to yourself in the morning.

Yet, those few precious words, good or bad, positive or negative, can have such an impact on how we process the rest of the day that lays before us.


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Posted by Christian Martin Jr. in Change, Life Hack, Living Better, Self-Improvement